Where to find support online and in your local area

Finding support when you’re expecting twins, triplets or more

Hearing you’re expecting twins, triplets or more can feel exciting, overwhelming and everything in between. One of the most reassuring things you can do is surround yourself with people who understand what life with more than one baby truly looks like.

Support can come from family and friends, but connecting with others who have twins, triplets or more often feels different. They know why leaving the house can feel like a military operation and they get the emotional highs and lows in a way that can be hard to explain to anyone else.

That’s why it can be helpful to start building your support network during pregnancy, rather than waiting until the babies are here and you’re coping on very little sleep. Whether it’s a local twins club (LINK), an online community (LINK) or a mixture of both, knowing where you can turn for advice, reassurance and a friendly chat can make a big difference. Tips on this are also covered in our Preparing For Twins (LINK) and Preparing For Triplets (LINK) online courses.

It can really help to jot down a list of organisations, go-to resources and local groups you might want to lean on once your babies arrive. That way, when you realise you’d like a bit of extra support with feeding or you’re starting to feel ready to get out of the house for a change of scene, you’ve already got all the information you need in one place.

Building your local support network

Local twins and multiples clubs can be a huge source of comfort and practical help. Many clubs welcome expectant parents, so you can go along before your babies arrive, get a feel for the group and start to make connections. You might meet parents who are a few months ahead of you and happy to share what has helped them.

You can find out whether you have a multiples club near you using this search tool (LINK). If there is no club close to you, you might think about starting one; Twins Trust can offer guidance on how to do this so you’re not figuring it out alone.

Once you’ve found a local group, it’s worth asking if they have a WhatsApp chat or similar. Even if you can’t always make it to meet-ups in person, having a group on your phone means there are people you can message on tough days or when you just want to share a small win, like everyone napping at the same time.

At a local twins or multiples group, you might find:

• Regular coffee mornings where you can show up as you are
• Play sessions set up with twins and triplets in mind
• Other parents happy to swap tips on everything from prams to preschool

If you’re more introverted, or the idea of walking into a room of strangers feels daunting, you’re not alone. Many parents feel this way. It can help to arrange to meet one person from the group first, or to go with a partner, friend or grandparent the first time.

Exploring online support and social media groups

Alongside local meet-ups, online spaces can be a lifeline, especially in the early weeks when getting out of the house feels impossible. Twins Trust runs online communities (LINK) where you can connect with other parents of twins, triplets or more, as well as our helpline (LINK) if you’d like to talk things through one-to-one.

The main groups are hosted on Facebook and are usually organised by stage or situation, such as pregnancy, early years or specific circumstances. Once you’ve joined the right group for you, you’re encouraged to share your experiences, tips that have helped and gentle encouragement for others.

Online spaces can be incredibly positive, but it also helps to notice how they make you feel. If a particular group leaves you anxious or overwhelmed, it is absolutely fine to mute it for a while, leave and rejoin later, or try a different space that feels more supportive.

Choosing the support that works for your family

Every family with twins, triplets or more will find a different mix of support that suits them. Some parents love the buzz of regular local meet-ups, while others prefer the flexibility of online communities they can dip into during night feeds or nap times. Many use a blend of both.

You might find that your needs change over time too. The group that felt perfect in pregnancy might not feel right once your babies arrive, and that’s okay. You are allowed to move on, try something new and look for spaces that match the stage you’re in now.

What matters most is that you know you don’t have to do this on your own. Support might look like swapping stories with another parent at a twins club, sending a late-night message in a Facebook group, or picking up the phone to our helpline (LINK) when you need to talk.

Reaching out is not a sign that you’re not coping; it’s a sign that you’re doing your best for yourself and your children.