How might I feel after losing a baby or babies?

You may feel a complex range of emotions if you've lost one of your babies. These emotions may feel unexpected.

Here are some emotions which other parents have shared with us that they've felt:

• Feeling torn between grieving for your dead twin or triplet(s)and allowing yourself to feel joy for the birth of your surviving baby or babies
• Feeling angry that the experience of having twins or triplets has been taken away from you
• The loss of a family life you thought you were going to have
• Blaming yourself for what happened or a sense of shame
• A sense of loneliness and a worry that you won't be able to bond with your surviving twin or triplet(s)
• A loss of trust in life and your body and a continuing sense of loss about what the future holds
• Feeling out of control - worrying that this amount of grief cannot be normal and if you will ever feel the same again
• Worrying about how you're going to cope caring for your surviving twin or triplet(s) when your heart is breaking for the twin or triplet(s) who've died