We know this can be a big issue for families with twins, triplets or more. We have support and advice to help you think through the 'together or apart' question.
We want:
Education policy that prioritises parental choice and input in class and school selection. This should be clearly set out in legislation, rather than left to individual schools to decide
Why it should be your decision
Parents should be at the centre of decisions about whether their children are placed together or in separate classes. You know your children's personalities, needs and relationship better than anyone.
You're also best placed to judge how they influence each other. Some children feel supported together. Others may find it harder to build independence when they're always side-by-side.
There isn't one right answer. Each family's situation is different, so schools should avoid a one-size-fits-all approach.
Your children's individual differences matter
Twins and triplets can have different personalities, learning styles and social needs. Some children do well together and take comfort from having their sibling nearby. Others need space to grow their own identity.
You see these differences every day. That puts you in the best position to spot what helps each child feel confident and ready to learn.
Emotional and social development
Some children feel more secure when they're together, especially during transitions like starting school. Being in the same classroom can reduce anxiety for some children.
For others, being apart can help them build confidence, form their own friendships and avoid becoming overly dependent. You can judge what feels best for your children, based on how they cope with change and new settings.
Learning needs in the classroom
Your children may not have the same strengths and challenges at school. One might find maths easier, while the other enjoys languages more. If they're together, teachers may compare them without meaning to. If they're apart, each child may have more space to develop at their own pace.
At the same time, some children learn well together and benefit from shared encouragement. Your view of how they learn and respond to feedback should guide the decision.
Strengthening the parent-school partnership
A fixed rule rarely works well for every family. What supports one set of twins, triplets or more may not support another. Schools should take a flexible, case-by-case approach, based on what will help each child thrive.
When schools involve parents in class placement decisions, it builds a stronger partnership. It supports better communication and trust between parents and school staff, leading to a more supportive environment for children. When parents feel listened to, they're more likely to stay engaged and work with the school as their children's needs change.
Your experience can help drive change
Real change is only possible when the voices of families with twins, triplets or more are heard. Help drive the changes that families need now and in the future: share your story or talk to us about our campaigning work.
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